This article had me crying. I am the only daughter and this happened to me. Only I had one narcissistic brother so he would never step in unless he could control the money, and one brother long distance (across the country). So it landed on me. I was working a full time job almost 2 hours away but yet I was expected to be there many nights. Eventually I became disabled and stayed the responsible caregiver with no other help from family except occasionally my daughter. I was emotionally ruined.
Missy, thank you for trusting me with this. What you carried, working two hours away, showing up night after night, becoming disabled in the process, that is not a small thing. That is everything. The weight of being the only one who stayed, especially alongside a sibling dynamic you have with your brother, is something very few people talk about honestly. I'm glad this article gave that experience somewhere to land. I hope you know that what happened to you was not fair. And you are not alone in it.
No vote. No meeting. Just a slow accumulation of calls that always went to the same person. You named something most families won’t say out loud for years.
This article had me crying. I am the only daughter and this happened to me. Only I had one narcissistic brother so he would never step in unless he could control the money, and one brother long distance (across the country). So it landed on me. I was working a full time job almost 2 hours away but yet I was expected to be there many nights. Eventually I became disabled and stayed the responsible caregiver with no other help from family except occasionally my daughter. I was emotionally ruined.
Missy, thank you for trusting me with this. What you carried, working two hours away, showing up night after night, becoming disabled in the process, that is not a small thing. That is everything. The weight of being the only one who stayed, especially alongside a sibling dynamic you have with your brother, is something very few people talk about honestly. I'm glad this article gave that experience somewhere to land. I hope you know that what happened to you was not fair. And you are not alone in it.
Thank you! It was a very difficult time for me as I lost my dad and fiancé two years apart and was completely alone.
I can see why this brought you to tears. As I read on i started to think you were the author it reminded me so much of you.
No vote. No meeting. Just a slow accumulation of calls that always went to the same person. You named something most families won’t say out loud for years.